Message to anyone who has problems with children
Many problems with young people can be worked from home with a good and frank dialogue between parents and children. Conflicts can also be greatly reduced with some measures we can take to give the young a quality time occupation, and especially of his mind (a). These measures may be, for example, engaging in new activities such as a music course, languages, arts or any sport.
Another excellent way to improve the relationship of parents with children is to observe whether there is or not, the need for some specialized treatment with a psychologist (a). It is always very good. This monitoring is very important because it allows the (a) young melts and can put out with a person who is outside the conflict zone, all common problems and dramas of this phase of life.
There is another approach that, in my opinion is the most important of all, is to work the spiritual side. Develop not only the spiritual side of the youth, but also of all family members. Recent years have seen an increased clearance of young people in the things of God. Currently, the three young people 18-34 years old, one is said atheist, agnostic or irreligious. Unfortunately, this is a worldwide trend. As we all know this ends up causing serious consequences and negative effects not only for individuals but also for the whole society. The first to feel these effects are parents and close relatives. When one or more of these negative factors affect the life of a (a) young as, for example, alcohol or drug abuse, the entire family to suffer and to help mobilize. However, even with all mobilization and goodwill, there are times that the family did not know what else to do to help.
The word of God teaches us:
My people would not listen; Israel did not obey me. So I let them go their stubborn ways and do what they wanted. – Psalm 81:11 and 12
As do not want to know the true knowledge about God, He gave humans their evil thoughts, so that they do what they should not. They are filled with every kind of wickedness, evil, greed, addiction, jealousy, death crimes, fights, lies and malice. Slander and speak evil of each other. God must hate and are headstrong, haughty and conceited. They invent ways of doing evil, disobedient to parents, are immoral, do not keep their word, they have no love for anyone and have no pity from others. They know that the commandment of God says that those who do such things deserve death. But still continue to do them and, even worse, in them that do the same things they do. – Romans 1: 28-32
If this worsening social situation is occurring because of human estrangement from God, the only solution is to return to the Father's house. First, it is always good to remember that most children have their parents as role be followed. Within this context, it is not very suitable and not very wise of the Father or Mother be pushing your child (a) to the church when they themselves do not. It must be a real example. It is necessary that there is a change of attitude.
So that the family can make a reunion with God is important that parents and young people seeking to approach the church. When the family approaches the church the Lord also approaches the family. When the Lord approaches the family the evil that is at work in the family starts to leave.
Another excellent option is to pray. Prayer is our daily weapon to deal with all the problems of life. We often feel that we are powerless in a situation, that is when the Holy Spirit of God touches our lives and inspires us to pray and to cry out for help from above. Requesting that the Father will help us. To ask the Lord will defend ourselves. To ask that the Lord will guide us about the thoughts that we have, and on the paths we should follow.
Search unto me, and ye shall find me when you seek me with all your heart. Jeremiah 29:13
When we seek God with all our heart, we find it. So I'd like to leave you with a small model of prayer that you can use to intercede before God for their children:
Put yourself in the presence of God and in prayer, ask Him in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ, forgive all the sins of his son (a) and your entire family. Tell him what's happening in your home. That! Open your heart. Stroke before the Lord all his pain, sadness, frustration, impotence and all guilt. Do not be afraid of anything. Contact everything for your God. Be honest (a). Be simple. Talk like a child before his loving Father. Tell the Lord what is happening with your child. With your girl. With your child. Talk to the Lord as He (a) is rebellious. Tell the Lord that you do not know why all this is happening in your life. Tell the Lord that you know, or do not know if it's a problem with drugs, prostitution with sexual immorality with the world of crime, alcoholism, lack of love, aggression, fights, disagreements, misunderstanding … Tell Lord of your sadness to see that your little boy or your little girl has changed so much that you no longer (a) know more. No matter what the problem there in your home or in your family. Contact this for God. Open your heart. He is there by your side. He's watching you. He sees your pain, your suffering. Recognize that you your family moved away from ways of the Lord and ask forgiveness for it. Ask Him to free all your family from the enemy's prisons. Ask the Father to withdraw from life of their children and entire family unbelief, self-sufficiency, selfishness, vanity, arrogance, pride, and especially the lack of fear of God. Ask that He turns the hearts of everyone in your home … Yes! … Continue to pray as well. Continue to pray in privacy and with sincerity of heart to the Lord. The Lord is your Father. The Lord is your best friend. Do not be afraid of him. Have no reservations with him. Do not hide anything from him. Open your heart and put out all that is overwhelming your heart …
Sorry to dwell, but I have a strong impression that if the Lord could say anything to you today, maybe he say something like this:
Daughter, son, I'm watching everything that is happening to you. I'm also sad about the situation there in your home. What is happening is not part of my plans of love and happiness that I lovingly had planned for your family. Never forget that I am love. And as I am the purest love I am also freedom. I know the sinful inclination of the human being, so I left with you my commandments. Not to take away or limit freedom of you, but to give more freedom, happiness and abundant life. But you my beloved sons and daughters, you do not listen to what I say. Do you prefer to get away from me and follow their own thoughts and ways. I always want to protect and bless all of you, but you ignored me. You pay more attention to worldly things because they think they can help you live better. That always happens. So I sent my beloved Son that He offered a sacrifice for the sins of all mankind, but yet you do not return your heart to me. What else can I do for you? I already told you that the sins that you commit everyday is a barrier between me and you. I also suffer from all this. Do you like more sins than me. Therefore I can not do anything. I hate sin! So that I can act in your life it is necessary that you abandon idolatry, adultery, lies, rebellion, lack of love, selfishness, envy, greed, pride, arrogance, self-sufficiency and all kind of evil … It is necessary that you give up sin and repent. It is necessary for you to humble themselves before me. For I AM the LORD. I am God and there is no other God but me. Humble yourself before me that I will exalt him. Humble yourself before me which I will send you directly to the heart of my Beloved Son and He will deliver you from all evil, pain, suffering, disease, unbelief and works of evil. Humble yourself before me that in the name and for the sake of my beloved son, I will heal your family, I will deliver your children and I will restore your life, your marriage and your family.
A big hug and be with God
Edilson Rodrigues Silva